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What is colic?

What is colic? No, seriously, what is it? As far as I can tell, it is only defined as a symptom in absence of any other known cause. The symptom is that your baby screams at night on cue like an evil cuckoo clock. For hours.

First question. Can colic really be "a thing" if it is only defined by its symptoms? You wouldn't go to a doctor to be diagnosed with runny nose or sore throat. The virus is "the thing" that you'd hope could be diagnosed. So what is "the thing" with colic?

Second question. Whether or not it is "a thing", can anything be done to treat colic?

Third question. If we haven't defined a cause and we're only talking about symptoms, then shouldn't treatment consider all of the effects? The mental health of the parents is severely affected by colic, so shouldn't treatment, therefore, encompass the well being of the whole family?

My first son had colic. He screamed on cue every night, starting at around midnight, and not letting up for anywhere from 1-4 hours. We endured this routine for about 8 weeks, starting at around the 6 week mark.

Then, one day, for no apparent reason, it stopped. Cold turkey. Gone and never to return. I wish I could say that we did something to interrupt it. If we did, then I was too sleep-deprived to have any memory of it. Those were the most difficult two months of my life, and I've been through some other stuff.

We scoured the internet for answers. We talked to our pediatrician. We talked to friends and family. Unfortunately, there was little we could do apart from try our best to soothe the poor little guy. As far as causes go, there is some evidence that colic might be of gastrointestinal origin, but the mechanism isn't known. For some babies, it apparently helps to switch to more-easily digestible milk proteins. We did this, but it didn't stop the colic

Surviving colic isn't easy, but it does help to temper your expectations. Knowing that he's gonna scream for awhile and there's nothing you can do about it, but resting assured that he's not actually in any danger -- that's really the best perspective that worked for us. 

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