Father Blather

It has been a while since I've posted. No free time! From wake-up to lights out, it's go-go-go all week. How am I even writing this right now? What essential task am I ignoring? How am I going to pay for this act of procrastination later?  How do parents manage to carve out time to even think about managing their time? It is trite and insufficient to state that being a parent is a full-time job. That's like calling military basic training a little retreat. You can't even complain about it. Complaining is interpreted as an admission that you dislike being a parent. I love being a parent, but parenting will eat all your time -- those two things are not in opposition. Kids eat time like minivans burn gas. When we had just one little guy, I did a better job of carving out a little time for myself. I grabbed an hour a day to workout, hang with friends, or play music. That hour made a huge difference. A little goes a long way. I was in better shape, my moods were stable, and ...

I am a Dad of two sons. My oldest is almost four and my youngest is a month old as of this writing. I'm tired. Becoming a Dad is a major life change. There is not very much that prepares us for the big life transition. In fact, becoming a new Dad actually results in biological changes . For me, it helped to talk to other Dads and read about other Dads' experiences. So that's what I'm going to do here. I'm going to share my Dad experiences.  I most definitely do not have it figured all out. If I'm certain of anything it's that there is no one-size-fits-all advice. Take or leave anything you find here as it suits you. Since the internet is full of lists already, what's the harm in adding one more? Here's my list of the Top 5 things I didn't expect when becoming a Dad. 1. You will forget who you used to be. I knew that the life changes would be huge. I knew that I would sacrifice a lot of the freedom I enjoyed pre-Dad. No more saying 'yes' t...